Misconceptions and Guidelines for Anal Sex

Many people think that anal sex is painful and is never a comfortable experience. This is just plain untrue. Just like with any type of sex, the anus, like the vagina, has to become used to the sexual activity. Women can remember the first time they had sex and it was probable a little painful. It even can be the first few times having sex and not the most enjoyable experience. But even though this is the case woman do not stop having sex. For both sexes anal sex follows the same guidelines.

Anal sex takes practice to get comfortable while doing it. If it is painful it could be a sign that it is not being done correctly. Many times it can be because the person receiving is tense (tightening up), the giver is too hard when thrusting, no lubricant (or not enough) is used, or the penis or sex toy is just too large. The best way to begin is by using smaller sex toys or fingers and then moving up to bigger toys and an actual penis when the person is comfortable doing so. When the person has become comfortable with anal sex it can be a very pleasurable experience.

Here a few anal sex guidelines you should follow:

* Make sure to always use lubrication. The small amount of lubrication that the anus produces naturally is not enough for anal sex without lubrication. Because of this before penetration takes place there needs to be enough lubricant. The best types to use are water-based and latex-compatible lubricants.

* Stop having anal sex if your partner tells you to do so. If a person is too tense to experience anal sex it can be very painful. Do not push your partner to keep going if it is too painful for them, as you want it to be a pleasurable experience for both parties.

* Go slow when starting out. When you experiment with anal sex go slow the first few times. You are not in a rush and if you take your time and go slow it can lead to a more pleasurable experience for both parties. If enough lubrication is used the penis or sex toy should slide in easily but for the first few times you should use fingers to loosen up the anal muscles.

* Make sure you communicate with your partner. Much like with other sexual activities you need to communicate with your partner. Talk with your partner beforehand and see if you BOTH want to try anal sex. If both parties are receptive give it a try but follow these guidelines when doing so.