Introduction to Tantric Sex
Even though tantra has been practiced in many cultures in the east it is just beginning to be widely used in the west. Tantra began in India over 6,000 years ago as a rebellion against organized religion. At the time organized religion believed that sexuality should be spurned so that a person may reach enlightenment.
Tantra, in its most basic form, holds the belief that a male ejaculation should be prohibited and not be the sole objective of the sexual experience of a man. Tantra holds the belief that the male preoccupation with ejaculation actually is a waste of sexual energy and keeps the woman from the ability to have multiple orgasms. But woman can, and are actually encouraged to, reach orgasm through various tantric techniques.
Tantra means to manifest, to expand, and to weave and show. If looking at the meaning in its context sexual experience is seen to be an expansion of one’s consciousness and be intertwined (weave) together the polarities of male and female into one consciousness. The male is a representation of the Hindu god Shiva and the female representation is embodied by the Hindu goddess Shakti. A couple does not need to adopt the entire tantric philosophy in order to obtain the benefits form the wisdom of the ancient art of tantra. The sexual techniques of tantra can teach people how to prolong making love and to fully realize energies that come from the orgasm.
Many men can read this can wonder what is the benefit of the act of not having an ejaculation, which is the best part of having sex. Tantra can be a satisfying sexual experience, which will make the sexual encounter more pleasurable for both parties involved.
People that practice tantric sex will tell you that it not only helps in the bedroom but the relationship as a whole. Common sense will tell us that the better the sexual relationship is it can be seen in other facets of a persons life, which can also reap the positive benefits. Because of this many problems that many couples deal with can be aided by the use of tantra. This is not to say that is will solve every couples problems, but tantra can help in the bedroom and bring more sexual harmony to a relationship, therefore tantra can help other areas of the relationship become harmonious.
There is a version of tantric sex for beginners, which is referred to as “tantra lite.” Tantra lite is a slower and more attentive version of typical sex. It goes as follows: The couple will slowly take off their clothes, and start to breath in rhythm while deeply looking into each others eyes. As the couple palms are touching the couple can concentrate on creating a special energy flow. Then the couple can share a ritual such as breathing together, sharing gifts with each other, and exchanging full body messages, all of this is done with the lights on.
When following tantra the foreplay is prolonged. Anything is fair game from head messaging to foot-play. The emphasis is on making the woman becoming fully aroused, which generally can take 20 minutes while a man can become fully aroused in 5 -10 minutes, or less. Oral sex, and especially the 69 position is encouraged, considering it is a mutual pleasure giving position and is a chakra alignment.
There are other positions where the charkas will be aligned and the couple can gaze into each others eyes. Men can keep their erection longer by low and rhythmic thrusting. Woman can have the experience of multiple orgasms, as the man messages the vagina and with muscle flexing of the vagina. Other things that are used often in tantra are the use of oils and sounds made by the couple to increase arousal during the longer time when sexual activity is taking place. Making sounds during sex also is seen to aid in circulating energy. This is a basic introduction to tantra as there are many other tantric techniques. Tantra cannot be achieved overnight as it takes time, but once tantra is realized with both partners it can be sexually beneficial for both parties.
