Having Good Sexual Etiquette
It is the age-old notion that men are the hunters and women are the prey. This notion also applies to sex but the prey gets to choose who they sleep with. Basically women will not jump in the sack with any guy that hits on them as they get to choose who they have sex with. If this wasn’t the case men would be having a lot more sex. Because of this there is an etiquette that a guy should follow when trying to bed a woman and once they are in bed.
There are many that believe that once two people get naked and jump in the sack that there is no room for etiquette in bed. This is not the case. A lot of men have the belief that it is ok to go to sleep right after they have an orgasm. There are aspects of having sex that go beyond the few seconds of having an orgasm. When two people have sex they share a bond that lasts after they have had a climax and their heart rate goes back to normal levels. Many men think that sex is just throwing off the pants and getting down to business but most women need some foreplay to get aroused and to get lubricated so they are ready for intercourse.
One of the worst displays of sexual etiquette is when a man pushes a woman’s head down in order to receive oral sex. If a woman is ok with oral sex the man should not have to push her down there to do it. There is nothing that turns a woman off faster than this occurring if she has no intentions of doing it in the first place. Men complain that women do not spend enough time giving oral sex, but women can also make the same argument. Just like many things in life sex is no different, you get what you give. If you want more oral pleasure give some as well, and don’t expect it, as that is just bad sexual etiquette.
When sex is over the bonding that comes with it is not. One of the main complaints women has is that after sex men do not stay and cuddle or hold them. It is bad sexual etiquette to simply turn over and go to sleep or race out the door right after you have an orgasm. Stick around; you will be rewarded in the future for doing so. If you like the woman this is even more the case, as leaving or nodding off right away will only push her away and make it less likely she will want to have sex with you again.
It is also good sexual etiquette to let the woman know you are about to ejaculate. Let her know when it is time so she can be aware of your experience. If she is not aware you are about to have an orgasm and then abruptly stop because you had an orgasm it is bad sexual etiquette.
You should also be careful when trying to spice up the bedroom with sexual fantasies and toys. Don’t just whip out a vibrator or 12 inch dildo and think she will immediately be receptive. You have to talk about it first as good communication only leads to better sex. You can surprise her with such things as toys and fantasies but you should know here well enough beforehand to know she won’t slap you. It is always good sexual etiquette to get consent beforehand for any new sexual position, sex toy, or sexual fantasy.
